From Amp, with my favorite part in bold:
Posted by binky at April 7, 2007 02:46 PM | TrackBack | Posted to Random ThoughtsThe specific male quandary you've described stems from a belief that by hanging around and being "nice," a man is entitled to female affection. I have a lot of sympathy for a lot of situations that hit men, but being upset by not getting what they won't ask for (and will thus often try to extract through manipulation, like pretending to be a friend when the friendship is treated as a tedious and insulting means to something else) isn't one of them. Also, many - by no means all, but enough to make it a more than reasonable concern - of the kinds of guys who make this particular kind of complaint are only a step or two a way from outright stalking the object of their desire. The use of the word 'object' isn’t accidental.